Only Fans

I wanted to write a brief post to let everyone know that I now have an account on Only Fans! You can follow me there for $12.99 a month, and gain exclusive access to content not seen anywhere else. The entirety of my recent shoot with Hello Miss is there, including some semi-explicit shots. I will also be posting exclusive selfies and videos there, in addition to some of favorite adult clips that I have up on Many Vids and Amateur Porn. This is a perfect option for anyone who is a fan of the work I do, and all the free content I release on twitter, instagram and this site. Consider yourself a patron of my arts!

Click on the pic below to get linked to my Only Fans page!

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Denver Tourism Guide

With my next tour coming up in my hometown of Denver this May 14-21 (2019), I figured I do a little tourism blog post for anyone traveling in Denver and looking for things to do. Rather than focusing on the most popular Denver tourism experiences, though, I thought I would focus on some of my favorite places from my childhood that still exist. There’s a few of them and I want to celebrate them before gentrification eats them up, as well!

(Side note: I think many of these locations are not technically in Denver, but close enough. They are all Colorado favorites that any Denverite will tell you is essential to the experience of both the city and the state).

Casa Bonita

Casa Bonita is more than just a Mexican restaurant with pretty bad food. You might ask yourself, “why would I ever go to a restaurant with terrible food?” And I’m here to tell you why: cliff divers. Live shows. An arcade. A gift shop. Black Bart’s cave. And the sopapillas are not bad, free and unlimited, though I wouldn’t recommend eating too many unless you want to add layers to the the stomach ache you might already incur from your main meal. There’s also margaritas if that’s your thing!

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The reason that the food is so bad here is because it’s served cafeteria style, and when you combine the fact that the meal is basically your entry admission and it’s buying you SO MUCH JOY then it’s also kind of cheap. The last time I went they were still using cheese whiz as enchilada filling. But if the fact that I went here for both my 4th birthday party and my high school graduation is any indication, Casa Bonita is a Denver landmark not to be missed! This is a perfect place to take kids, it’s for kids, but you know what? It’s a perfect place for the kid inside you too!

Lakeside Amusement Park

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Lakeside is definitely one of my favorite places on this planet. The parking is free, the admission is cheap, unlimited rides are also cheap, and as far as I know no one has ever died there despite some of the rides seeming pretty old and maybe barely operating. Actually, there was once a speedway there and I think I heard a rumor that people may have died racing cars there? I don’t remember. The race track closed in 1988 but is still on site and super spooky looking.

Lakeside was built in 19-0-freaking-8, and was originally called White City as it was one of several amusement park inspired by the Chicago World’s Fair that were built across America around the turn of the century. During the 1930s several renovations were made and the park took on an art deco style. I am excited to report that the art deco style remains today and it is a really good vibe. Of course, since the place is so cheap the maintenance of all these very old art deco stuff has not be great. But I actually love that- it gives the place a horror movie sort of feel. Lakeside was in fact used as inspiration in the video games Silent Hill and Silent Hill 3 (though the park featured in those games looks different). Charming? If you’re me, yes! Definitely!

If you’re not into amusement and thrills it’s still a really lovely place to just hang out on a warm summer evening. But if you are into rides there are some really fucking good ones that are guaranteed to scare and delight you. The Cyclone, a large wooden roller coaster (and historic landmark coaster! Built in 1940) is probably my favorite, but I also love the train that goes around Lake Rhoda (great for making out with a sweetie), the Wild Chipmunk (great for shitting your pants), and the Crystal Palace, which is a hall of mirrors that has a very vintage feel. The carousel is still the original from 1908, and has many different types of animals you can ride on vs. just horses. This is also a real good place to take kids! There’s a kiddie park with lots of rides for little friends.

Adventure Golf
A popular time-wasting destination for nothern-Denver-area-suburnan teenagers, Adventure Golf & Raceway is the place to go if you need to have all of your vaguely Indiana Jones themed mini golf dreams made reality!

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Hit a neon colored golf ball into the dude above, and he’ll either shoot water at you with a pithy insult ~or~ shoot fireballs into the sky!

Obviously, the full name tells us that there are also go-karts here, but I’ve never tried them because the mini golf is all consuming for me. Every other mini golf course I’ve been to is a huge disappointment in comparison to this one. I’m not saying it’s like REAL amazing either, but it’s got 3 solid courses with some sort of, uh, theme to each? I guess? And flowers and friendly bees and light competition amongst friend/ frenemies.

Crown Hill Cemetary (for goths) and Park (for non-goths)
I wasn’t exactly a typical goth in high school, more a pastel or thrift goth. But I was very into cemeteries and would sometimes just go to Crown Hill for no reason at all. I don’t have any relatives buried or otherwise kept there, I just like it! There are a ton of pretty massive and overwrought graves and memorials there, with the crown jewel (get it?!) of the cemetery being the Tower of Memories, a huge masoleum full of Italian Mob members.

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The above view of the Tower of Memories is from the adjacent park, also called Crown Hill, but you can see this tower from lots of points all over Wheat Ridge, Arvada, Lakewood and Denver. The park is arguably a better place to go, especially if you don’t have an appreciation for the macabre and do have an appreciation for wildlife. There is a man-made lake that is about a mile to walk around, and a lovely place to go for a stroll, jog, or roller skate. The path around the lake branches off into a wildlife preserve as well, or at least it did at some point! I think they might occassionally close that preserve to humans because we are destroyers of everything beautiful and lovely in this world.


This was a fun blog post to write! Hope you enjoyed a brief tour of some of my favorite Denver area hang outs. Maybe I’ll do another tourism guide soon.

My Favo(u)rite Movie! A Review

My very good friend Inari Popcorn recently invited me out to see a little film called The Favourite. I didn’t know anything about the movie other than the fact that Olivia Colman won the best actress Oscar for it this year, and I love her so of course I agreed to go. If you aren’t familiar with Olivia Colman, I suggest checking out everything she’s ever done because she’s incredible. I first discovered her on a show called Peep Show, which is a British comedy, and I think it’s on either Netflix or Hulu if you’d like to check it out. Which you should. As well as Broadchurch. And also The Night Manager. (She will also be playing older Queen Elizabeth in the next season of The Crown! So Excited!)

Anyhow, the title of this blog post is misleading; it’s not my favorite movie ever, but it is my favorite movie I have seen since several weeks ago at least. It’s so good! There you go, review over: go see this movie it is so good.

Just kidding, I do have more to say about it but from now on there will be spoilers so beware! I’m not sure if I enjoyed this movie more because I knew nothing about it, but I was definitely pleasantly surprised. I was expecting a period drama with some comedy, and what I got was a LESBIAN PERIOD DARK COMEDY which really hit the spot for me.

What I absolutely loved about this particular sapphic flick, and what it really set it apart from other queer films, was the fact that it was not a romance movie. Olivia Colman plays Queen Anne, the early 18th century British monarch, and Rachel Weisz plays Sarah Churchill, a duchess who has all but taken over ruling due to Queen Anne’s failing health, and who is also her court favorite- in more ways than one wink wink nudge nudge. Theirs is definitely a loving relationship, a bit romantic even, but is clear that this movie is all about the power dynamics of their relationship and not romance. Emma Stone plays Abigail Masham (née Hill) Sarah’s cousin who’s father sold her to pay off a gambling debt. She asks Sarah to employ her as a scullery maid in the palace, and eventually works her way into a position of being the Queen’s maid of the bed chamber- in more ways than one wink wink NUDGE NUDGE! Both women vying to be the Queen’s favorite care way less about the Queen herself than they do their position within the court and society, and let me just say that I think it’s important to see queer stories that are about things besides love. Love is lovely, but there is so much more intricacy to human connection that should be explored in art!

All 3 of these performances are incredible, and all 3 women are radiant and exquisite. I think that Queen Anne is not supposed to be seen as beautiful in this movie, or at least that some might not view her that way. But I personally found her beautiful! Rachel Weisz really kills it with a top notch boss attitude and masculine riding/ shooting outfits. Emma Stone is her always adorable and gorgeous self— I just love her facial expressions, she is fantastic at emoting. Nicholas Hoult is also in this movie, and he gives a great performance as well- but the best thing about his character are the increasing elaborate moles drawn on his face. Hearts, stars… is that a lion?

There is a dance scene that is reason enough alone to see this movie, and I’m not even sure how to describe it. You know how many period films have a dance scene, and the dances often seem very stuffy and boring and just not how we dance today? Well, this scene was, shall we say, choreographed a little differently and with a few modern touches. There were actually several subtle anachronistic elements that I very much appreciated— lace that was obviously laser cut, other fabrics that didn’t exist in the early 18th century, and the fact that the queen had pet rabbits in gilded cages. There were so many clever, small touches that I know I missed a lot.

In case you couldn’t tell from the fact I wrote a whole blog post about it, I loved this film and you might consider it required viewing for impressing me. I would love to talk to everyone about it! I will likely watch it again and again throughout my life, thus is the impact it has had on me.

What I'm Reading, Watching and Playing February 2019

Hey, it’s February! My favorite month of the year, though not based on the weather. It’s my favorite because it’s when I was born, and since it’s a short month I usually make everyone celebrate my birthday with me every single day in February. This year I turn 38, and I am happy to announce that my advanced age has not stopped me from enjoying various multi-media based distractions. Here’s some brief reviews on the media that I have been enjoying, or at least ingesting, recently.

Books

I just finished The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides, which I received as part of a Book of the Month club I joined to try to keep myself reading this year. It was OK, definitely a page turner but not one that blew me away. There was a lot of cliches in it, and I especially hated the diary entries written by the Silent Patient herself (who is not the main character). They came off as very unrealistic, not at all what a person would write in a diary. Unless of course they were anticipating that a person might read that diary later when trying to solve a crime, and part of me thinks I should start writing my journals that way just for fun. Leave all sorts of red herrings and foreshadowing for the absolute 0% of detectives or psychologists reading my journals in the future.

I am now reading the first book in the Southern Reach Trilogy, Annihilation by Jeff VanderMeer. I started reading it because I watched the movie that was based on it, and I loved the movie but several friends told me it was tragically bad when compared to the book. So far I agree! Annihilation is beautifully and carefully written, and keeps you wanting to read with it’s dream-like descriptions and interesting characters. There is a sense of discomfort when reading it, as well, that everything is deeply wrong but you’re just as confused as to why just like the characters are. I love it. I also have a book on the craft of writing fiction that is by Jeff VanderMeer, and now that I’m actually reading some fiction that he wrote I’m so glad that I have that book too! It’s called Wonderbook or something like that I think.

TV

Can we just take a minute to talk about The Americans and how much I love that damn show? OK, good I’m glad we can! Because I love that damn show. I was holding off on watching the 5th and 6th seasons for reasons I don’t remember, but I did catch up and then I had to restart watching the series from the beginning. The intrigue! The wigs! The sex scenes! Matthew Rhys’ angry face! It’s too much. If you haven’t seen the series I can’t recommend it enough, especially for those of you who like spy shit, sex work shit (lots of cross over between the spy life and the escort life, not even kidding), 80s shit, or Washington DC shit (I happen to like all 4).

There are 2 things that really make this show work, though: thing the first is that it’s well written and paced, if a bit far fetched at times. No spy’s life is as intense as what our Soviet protoganists experience in the span of like… idk I think like 5-7 years over the course of the series? But it doesn’t matter because it’s fun and horrifying. The 2nd factor is the chemistry between Keri Russel and Matthew Rhys, who had to get married in real life because their chemistry was so good. I love watching them together, a very believable couple because well they are a couple as it turns out!

Another thing I’m watching is Blue Planet II, a BBC docuseries about ocean life and how humans are killing everything so that’s sad and I can’t actually recommend it for that reason. But it’s also cute and amazing so I can recommend it for those reasons! The ocean is full of aliens and we don’t need to investigate space when we have such a rich area of discovery here on our own planet.

Video Games

I’m like 130 hours into Xenoblade Chronicles 2 now, just in case you were wondering where my life has gone. I started playing it several months ago and kind of found it overwhelming at first, especially since I like to smoke a little cannabis when gaming and the battle system seems complex. And, tragically, you cannot access a tutorial again after the game first shows it to you! But I got the hang of it and wow, it’s very engrossing. I could play it from another 130 hours and maybe I will. Collecting rare blades and going on all of their various side quests is addictive, and I can’t stop laughing at the way some of the anime titties move around in this game. It’s hypnotizing!

I am also playing Pokemon: Let’s Go Eevee! currently and while I wasn’t impressed with it at first, it did grow on me. I didn’t like that you no longer fought wild pokemon in order to catch them, but I was just being a stick in the mud. There are still plenty of battles to experience in the game, and catching with your Switch controllers can be fun! I also love the feature that allows you to have one of your pokemon follow you, or with bigger pokemon sometimes you can ride them! Super cute. And I get to dress up my Eevee, what more could I really ask for. I don’t like it as much as other pokemon games I’ve played, but it gets the job done. Oh! And i love have James and Jessie back in a game! I always ‘shipped them as queer best friends.

So that’s what I’ve been up to these past few months! Other than moving to Maryland, working out, writing, and the usual nonsense of course!

Mild Disabilities

Writing about disability often feels risky when your profession is one that requires a certain amount of physicality and energy. Throughout my 6.5 years as a companion I have written about my disabilities at certain times, then retreated into a space of not writing or talking about them. It has never really hurt my business to talk frankly about my health— if anything it has improved it. The current independent companion market is one that demands authenticity and vulnerability, or at least the illusion of those, but I don’t necessarily want to encourage that trend. I don’t necessarily want to be viewed as using my disability for branding (though certainly I am doing that, but the reasons behind me making that choice are complex and personal). I don’t want to be anyone’s inspiration porn, I just want to be people’s porn porn. I don’t want anyone to think this is risky for me to share for the wrong reasons.

I am mildly disabled. When I was born it was discovered that I had a congenital hip dysplasia, and I had to be in a cast that kept my legs in a frog-like position for the first several months of my life. Following that I wore a cowboy brace on and off for the first several years of my life, and learned to walk wearing that brace (they weren’t sure I would be able to walk, but I was). I was also diagnosed with hypotonic cerebral palsy at 2, and had to go to physical therapy for a year and some change to learn how to chew, swallow, hold my head up and balance while walking. In addition, I was admitted to an alternative public preschool program (I ended up attending the same school k-12) where the teachers agreed to give me special assistance with balance and walking. All and all, I grew into a fully and properly formed hip that did not need surgery, the ability to eat without assistance, and an ability to almost balance like a normal person (one reason I still don’t wear heels too often is this!). The fact that I was dealt a difficult learning curve in order to “fit in” has stuck with me throughout my life, though, and I believe that my fairly severe anxiety disorder partially stems from early experiences with these disabilities that I don’t quite remember. In addition to an actual serotonin deficiency, of course, but no one really knows if anxiety comes from serotonin deficiency or if anxiety causes it.

I was recently sorting through some of my storage bins and found medical records from my early childhood, some which had notes from physical therapists and also a few tests that were done on me to determine whether or not I had a “normal” IQ (I was quiet and shy and some people in my life were concerned I might be, well, r*tarded was the word they used in the paperwork) (this was the early 80s). One thing that really struck me as I went through these records was how focused all the adults in my life were on getting me to a less disabled place so I could participate in society, such as it is, even at the tender ages of 2 and 3. One physical therapist wrote something along the lines of (this is paraphrased): “[name redacted] is a pleasant child who wants to do well, but she becomes whiny when tired or frustrated.” This was written about me when I was 3, and I had to laugh because that is still true to this day! It is true for most adults, as it is true for most 3 year olds. Was I being admonished by someone whose job it was to help me cope with my disability for sometimes being cranky? In different records it was also noted that my mom “acknowledges that she feels overprotective of [name redacted].” I’d hate to see what medical professionals write about people with more severe disabilities, though perhaps they are kinder?

This diminishment of disability into bad attitude has followed me throughout my life, and unfortunately I am just as guilty of doing it to myself as other people are of gaslighting me around my health. One thing I deal with as an adult, and don’t talk about a lot, is chronic fatigue. I’ve tried several different doctors, healers and treatments over the years but have not found any secret trick to having more energy— other than taking the amount of time my body actually feels like it needs to rest! Which is more than average. I’ve been taught over and over again to believe that this fatigue is mental, that it’s related to depression or insomnia (it probably is related to the latter, but I also haven’t found any cure to that other than allowing myself to sleep in until 10am or noon). If I just take the right combination of vitamins, eat right, drink water, get regular acupuncture, exercise, the energy will come! Just lose/ gain some weight. Try yoga. Make your bed first thing in the morning and declutter your closet. Eliminate coffee, eliminate drugs and praise the lord. Quit whorin. Repent.

This is such an insidious thought pattern, and one that is foisted on people with real diagnosis’ and complaints again and again by doctors and other health industry professionals. It teaches us all that it’s our own fault if we don’t feel at maximum capitalist productivity, vs. the fault of a system that doesn’t have a safety net for the mildly or even the severely disabled (in some cases). It teaches women and those perceived as women, especially, to hide our pain and fatigue.

After going through these records I decided to break out my old google-fingers and do a little research on adults with hypotonic cerebral palsy- a condition that every doctor and alternative healer I consulted knew I had been diagnosed with- and issues with chronic fatigue. You may be as not-shocked as me to learn that both hypertonic and hypotonic CP patients report chronic fatigue as an issue. Those with hypotonic CP have difficulty building muscle tone, and much of our fatigue could be explained by the fact that it literally takes more energy for us to move than it does a person who can more easily build muscle tone. Yet every time I asked a doctor if I might be tired because I have CP, they always responded “no.” Often, they would look to my depression diagnosis and say that had to be the cause, but the only reason I have ever been diagnosed with depression in the first place is that I complained of chronic fatigue. How maddening.

As I said in the first paragraph of this meandering post, my reasons for sharing this on my professional blog are complex and personal and for once in my life I’m not actually going to detail all of them! But if you take anything away from reading this, I want it to be that I, and others anywhere on the disability spectrum, are deserving of kind and informed treatment from everyone in our lives. It is my belief that there needs to be drastic change in our society before true disability accommodations (for many) can be achieved, but until then just let some of us be sexy people who need a lot of R&R. Or whatever it is that we need to be to try our best to fit in.

2019 Announcements

If you’re a Kitty Karlyle super fan, you probably already know that I am moving to Maryland at the end of December (this month), 2018. When I first moved to the DC area I told myself I was only ever going to move into the District, if anywhere (I currently live in Arlington). And I guess I technically moved into the District with a workspace near Logan Circle? But life is filled with numerous twists and turns that one cannot predict, and thus my roommate/ partner’s work has led us to MD. Seems like a nice enough place though! I am excited to be living closer to Baltimore in the very near future.

I am going to make a few changes to how I operate this wing of my career in 2019, and I’d like to take this opportunity to share them with you!

I will be taking more time to concentrate on the other wing of my career, writing!
The bad news about this is that I will definitely not be taking any same day appointments going forward, which I pretty much already haven’t been. The good news, though, is that I am still available in the DC area, and now more available for prebooked dates in Maryland and especially Baltimore! Just please be aware that if you found me difficult to schedule with before, that is probably going to be even more true in 2019. I very much appreciate everyone who is already respectful of my scheduling needs, and I appreciate those of you who support me pursuing my other interests! If you ever told me “you should write a memoir,” I listened and will be working on lots of different writing projects, including the real stories of my life.

I will be lowering my outcall rates!
I am keeping my workspace in downtown DC for at least a few months, if not longer- but I have always loved outcalls and want to encourage y’all to have me come visit you! Outcalls to anywhere in Maryland and DC will be starting at $600 for 1 hour. I want to spend a lot more time in Baltimore, so give me an excuse to drive out there!

Art porn!
Rejoice, for I am interested in creating more video content. However, I will not be concentrating on camming or custom videos- I encourage anyone who wants one on one time with me to do that in person the next time you find yourself in the DMV, Denver or NYC area (if our schedules line up, of course! See item number 1). I’m going to be putting my efforts toward creating adult content that is in line with my interests, which means it’s going to be a little offbeat and “arty,” still smutty though don’t worry.

Happy holidays to all you lovely perverts, and I look forward to seeing you in 2019.

Choose Your Own Sex-Venture, Or: Orgasms are Not Necessary for Good Sex

I’d like to start this post out by confessing something: I orgasm easily, on my own & during partner sex, but I do not orgasm hard easily. Not everyone experiences a full spectrum of orgasm, but I am someone who does— I often describe it as going down a staircase or various levels in a dungeon, if you will. When I am having partner sex, I am likely to have a 1-3 levels down orgasm when they do clitoral stimulation on me. I have, on occasion, had orgasms from penetration alone, which I would put in the same 1-3 level category. At times, partners have been able to get me to levels further down with clitoral stim, and I am often able to get myself to very deep dungeon levels of orgasm with a combination of penetration and myself doing the clitoral stimulation. However, in order to experience a level 10 or 11 orgasm, I need a vibrator. Those are usually the orgasms that make me squirt, though I have had some partners (like 2 in my life, don’t get too excited) who have been able to make me squirt with their hand on my g-spot. I’m actually not really a big fan of that method, though! It’s kind of rough on my pussy.

(However, if you’re interested in seeing it happen the one time it was caught on film, you can purchase that clip here or here. I did have soreness the next day but it was worth it!)

Now that I’ve got your attention with all these intimate, salacious details and porn links I have another confession: my orgasms are not important to me when it comes to partner sex, and if someone can’t “make me cum” I don’t think any less of their sexual prowess. In fact, how do I put this delicately… if your main goal in a sexual encounter with me is my orgasm(s), that’s a lot of pressure and not really sexy! It’s probably not less likely to make me cum, because as I stated that’s pretty easy. But it is less likely to make me have one of those more elusive hard orgasms.

A recent study
showed that while men tend to say they’re interested in making their female partners orgasm for egalitarian reasons, the real reasons behind this desire had more to do with their perceived masculinity and ego. Believe me, I totally get it: I absolutely love the rush of making someone cum, as well. It’s validating! It’s affirming. It’s a wonderful thing to share with others. But you know, it’s just not gonna happen every time, with everyone.

Every sexual experience is unique. Feels like an obvious statement, but when it comes to our expectations around sex I think many people fall into the trap of expecting everyone to have the same sexual responses, the same things that turn them on, the same reaction to touch or dirty talk or roleplay or costumes. Even if you have sex with the same person for years upon years, you won’t have the same experience with them every time. And take it from me: the responses of your sex partner will change over the years. Their interest will ebb and flow, and their sexual response and orgasms will as well. With all this in mind, the best advice I can give to anyone who is looking to “make” their partners cum is to back off the idea that you will be the one to do it, and try collaborating instead. Some of my best sexual experiences involved multiple, hard, squirting orgasms for me. Conversely, I have whole other sets of amazing sexual experiences that involved no orgasms for me. One thing they all had in common, though:

No pressure on me, or my partner(s), to have any particular response. Sex is best when you let go and just enjoy the company of friends and the pleasure of touch!

Yes, I am Married: My Life as a "Slut Wife"

OK the title of this blog post is me being facetious and hyperbolic. Slut Wife is a porn term and if anything I’m a whore wife, not a slut wife. That being said, I actually am married and have been since before I began this career! I am non-monogamous, or as some people call it polyamorous. I used to use that label but I stopped liking it as much because I began to associate polyamory with rules, and I hate rules.

My partner who I live with and share tax breaks and health insurance with has been my best friend for 11 years now, and we’ve been common law married for 9 of those years. When I decided I wanted to try professional companionship he was actually one of my biggest supporters! We had already been living the polyam life for about 5 years at that point, and one of the things has always loved most about me is my compassion. When I told him I was heavily considering the career change, he thought it was likely to be a perfect fit!

One thing I don’t like being asked is “oh, so your husband is ok with you doing this?” It implies that I belong to him and that he has to approve of all my decisions, which I don’t and he doesn’t. For me, being a supportive partner equals being honest about what you think about your partner’s decisions, but also never ever telling them what to do. I expect the same from my partners in return.

The question also implies that because I am married to him, he would be the only partner who cares about the decisions I make. I also have a girlfriend who I’ve been with about 5 years now, and while she would never try to make decisions for me she does care an equal amount. That’s what partners do, no matter your official relationship status in the eyes of the law and government. Or at least that’s what I believe!

My life has always been unconventional, and non-monogamy has been one aspect of that. I like to be open about the fact that I have partners with my clients because I want to fight the stigma and false idea that companions are lonely and unlovable. We all have different ways we relate to relationships, and different policies about what we will and won’t share with clients. Some companions are in monogamous relationships and don’t share that fact with clients, preferring to be seen as single. Others are single, and may or may not be looking for a relationship and may or may not share that with clients for numerous reasons. Many companions I know are non-monogamous like me, but I’ll never tell you their relationship status unless I know they’re open about it.

I think the most important thing to remember about your companion friends and whatever sort of relationships they might be in outside of work is this: ultimately, time spent with them is time spent between you and them alone, and precious for that reason. Don’t waste that time thinking about them with others! Unless of course you’re seeing more than one companion at once, our sharing a session with your partner! Which of course I would highly recommend.

What I'm Reading, Playing & Watching October 2018

I’ve been reading a lot of books, playing some games and watching some TV this October. Instead of reviewing just one selection for my blog, I decided to do a brief review on all of it!

Reading

Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn
I finished this one recently, and I actually watched the HBO series based on it at the same time I was reading it so I guess this counts as both a read and a watch. It was both an enormously entertaining book and TV series for me, but I feel a little bit complicated saying that because they’re both kind of sensationalist trash. Gillian Flynn likes to write about evil women, and many critics have accused her of being misogynist because of this. I don’t necessarily agree with this criticisms, I think they’re very feminism 101 and don’t acknowledge that woman can be just as capable of evil as men. But I do think Flynn’s work can be cliche in how it deals with feminine archetypes of mental illness and attention seeking behavior. Sharp Objects focuses on a dysfunctional family with a mentally unwell matriarch, and I found it both over the top and uh…. let’s just say somewhat relatable.

Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty
After my successful run of daily reading with Sharp Objects, I decided to read another book that has also been turned into an HBO mini series. I’m about 70 pages into Big Little Lies, and I do also find it entertaining and easy to read. It’s not as relatable for me, though; a lot of the content so far has been about motherhood and small town gossip. I am especially not fond of the interjections from perspectives of other folks living in the small, Australian town of Periwee (they changed the location of the miniseries to Monterey, CA for uh idk what reasons. Budget? So no one had to do an accent other than Nicole Kidman, ironically doing an American accent when she is Australian?). I guess those interjections in the voice of characters no one cares about are actually something that most people love about the book, but I find them distracting and annoying and perhaps a little too real sounding.

The End of Policing by Alex S. Vitale
I got this book from the library and was reading it as I rode the elevator up to my apartment the other day, and the older white woman sharing the elevator with me actually felt so threatened by it she said “I don’t like the title of that book!” And thus began my absolute love affair with this informative piece of social science non-fiction. Of course, as someone who has chosen a career of ill repute, you might say my enjoyment of this book would have been guaranteed anyhow. But it is well-researched, well-written (a very important factor for me, as a dyslexic person) and offers up several suggestions for positive solutions or even, gasp, reform. I highly recommend this book to anyone, but especially those who don’t know much about the history of policing in the United States and globally. I didn’t know much about the history, and it is information worth knowing because it’s deeply disturbing, and answers a lot of questions about what’s wrong with policing today.

Playing

LA Noire Rockstar Games
I love that I am both playing this game and reading The End of Policing at the same time. I wouldn’t say LA Noire is full on cop propaganda— Rockstar Games does tend to take a more nuanced view of crime and punishment than average. But it’s not NOT cop propaganda, either, as it is primarily a nostalgia piece on the film noir genre. This game has a lot going for it in terms of story and acting (the game was actually acted out in live action by actors using motion capture), but as far as gameplay itself goes I find it a bit limited. There’s not enough action to fully satisfy me. I keep coming back for more, though, so I must like it ok! I’ve almost completed my first play through of it.

Dr. Mario Nintendo
I don’t know what happened to me, but I cannot stop playing Dr. Mario since Nintendo recently released it as part of a package of NES games you can play on the Switch (if you pay for their damn membership, of course!). The last time I played this game I was about 9, I think, and really bad at it. So I’ve enjoyed having a kickass strategy for it as an adult, I suppose! I’ve reached level 20 AND BEYOND!

Watching

Sharp Objects HBO
See above, my review of the book is very similar to the series. My only addition here is that I have a crush on Amy Adams and she’s great in the role of Camille Preaker.

The Haunting of Hill House Netflix
I’m 5 episodes into this halloweeny horror series and I am obsessed and addicted. It does a wonderful job of drawing the metaphor between classic concepts of haunting and the more internal struggle many of us deal with the “haunting” of trauma. The acting, story, and sets are all amazing. I hate the opening sequence, though— sometimes I will watch a show entirely because the opening sequence excites me, but that is not the case here. I also hate the way the Crain family treats the youngest siblings, twins Nell and Luke, but that is definitely an important aspect of the story! And the portrayals of the older family members and their dick behavior are not overly sympathetic.

Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath Hulu
I’m not actually watching this, my partner is, but that is also a lie because if I’m not doing something else while he’s watching it then I can’t seem to tear myself away from it! Similarly to Sharp Objects I would also put this in the very good and engaging overly sensationalized trash category. I’m very glad Remini and others are speaking out about Scientology, so don’t get me wrong! It just makes me feel a little sick to hear them go over the abuses they endured over and over again as a part of Scientology, and yet I can’t stop being curious about these abuses and thus I personally feel like trash for my morbid fascination.


So that’s what I’ve been reading, playing and watching this October! I’d love to talk about any of these shared media interests with y’all if you’ve read, played or watched them as well.

Fly Me To You!

One of the reasons I got into professional companionship was my love of travel, in addition to an actual need to be able to travel with some regularity since I was embarking on a long distance relationship when one of my partners moved to the East Coast from Boulder. For many years I toured DC and New York, as well some other locations in Arizona (where my sister and friends live) and the Bay Area (where everyone lives). Then I decided to move to DC, both to be closer to the aforementioned partner and to make touring the East Coast easier.

I still love to travel, but… my body seems to like it less the older I get, unfortunately. I actually haven’t toured as much as I’d like to this year, due to a lot of factors but some of them have to do with the fact that I get terrible insomnia in any bed that’s not my own. Also, with the recent legislation put through the US congress and the loss of many advertising platforms, it is harder to get business while on tour. Which makes it less of an investment and more of a panic to profit (I almost always do, but it feels less worthwhile in the long run).

This has led me to decide that I am very likely not to tour this fall, 2018. I’ve made declarations like this before and then gone back on them— notably last fall when I decided not to tour and then 2 weeks later decided to go to New York for a photoshoot (heavily featured on this site, thank you Blue Egg Boudoir!). Something like that seems likely to happen again, but damnit I’d kind of like to stay home with Beans, Tater and my roommate lover. I’d like to finally feel like I can take some time to get to know my new city better, as well— touring can be very discombobulating, and I still don’t feel like my home now is my home.

I am always available for Fly Me To You appointments, though! Even with all this travel weariness, I can always make it happen if the opportunity is right. I will travel to any city on the east coast for 4+ hour appointment, plus travel and accommodations. And I will come anywhere else in the US for an overnight or longer, plus travel and accommodations. Email me any time at kittykarlyle@protonmail.com to get a quote, or if you have any questions about my Fly Me To You Services. I am available for international travel as well.

Looking forward to meeting many of you all over the globe, but hopefully some of you in DC over the next few months :D